How to Promote yourself as a Speaker on the Web – Public-Speaking
How to Promote yourself as a Speaker on the Web
Why use the web for promoting your speaking engagements?Most people now agree that the web offers a great deal of information, if not too much. Every business should have a website, even if it is only informational as to what you sell and where you are located. You may not want to sell chocolates in the hot summer over the web, but you can tell people where your business is located and what specials you are running. I recently met a fellow that was getting married and he needed to order a cake and find someone to sing at his wedding. Instead of looking in the yellow pages, he opted to do a search for local businesses to provide what he needed. He found only one baker out of 20 in his city that had a site. He could even choose the decorations over the web. He bought from this store because they had provided a convenience for him. He also located a singer in the same manner.It does not matter what business you are in, the web will provide you with a way to have an electronic brochure and a presence. I find that many of my clients want to know more about me before we meet; they look at my website to determine whether I have the expertise they are looking for. I, in turn, look for the potential clients' site to learn more about what they do. Do not dismiss the web if you are not savvy, there are plenty of designers that will put up a simple site for you in a couple of days. You must, however, provide them with the content.An important advantage to having your own website is that it will allow you to have your own email address, at your own domain name. Not only does this make you look more professional, you will also never need to change email address again! Think of the savings in printing cards, never mind the consistency of the image you create for yourself.Once you have a website, try to get links to it everywhere you can. One way is to join an organization that has a member site and will list you in the price of your membership. Chambers of Commerce are a good example of this and a good place to start.Bette Daoust, Ph.D. has been networking with others since leaving high school years ago. Realizing that no one really cared about what she did in life unless she had someone to tell and excite. She decided to find the best ways to get people's attention, be creative in how she presented herself and products, getting people to know who she was, and being visible all the time. Her friends and colleagues have often dubbed her the "Networking Queen". Blueprint for Networking Success: 150 ways to promote yourself is the first in this series. Blueprint for Branding Yourself: Another 150 ways to promote yourself is planned for release in 2005. For more information visit http://www.BlueprintBooks.com
10 Worst Tips To Give A Speaker – Public-Speaking
10 Worst Tips To Give A Speaker
1. Learn the speech by heart or read it from a script.This is meant to be a way of making sure you don't forget what you're going to say. Instead, it's usually a way of making sure you don't connect with your audience.Most people who use a script end up reading it out and, unless you're a professional actor or a very experienced speaker, this will come across as unnatural and stilted and it will stop you looking at your audience.If you try to memorise a script, you may find you are under even more pressure to remember what you want to say because, if you go off the script, there's no way back.It's better to prepare some notes which can be a guide should you need one. By the time you've prepared the speech, you will know the main areas you want to cover. Put these down as headings on paper or cards in LARGE PRINT so you can see them when you're standing up. You may then only need a couple of key words to add to these to remind you of the main points you want to make in each area.If you need more than this, you may be trying to cover too much information. You may also think of a couple of really good ways of saying something, or a good story to use to illustrate a point. Jot these down so you don't forget.2. Rehearse in front of a mirror.This may be a bit controversial because I know several books and trainers give this tip. All I can say is I have never found I could do this.I do rehearse ( sometimes ) and sometimes I tape myself to hear what it sounds like. But I can't watch myself in a mirror and think about what I'm saying, it's just too distracting. If you want to see what you look like, ask someone to watch you or use a video camera. However, don't get bogged down with worrying about how you look.The main purpose of rehearsing is to reinforce the talk in your memory, check how long it takes and help you spot those areas where what you want to say doesn't sound right or where you might get confused. Then you can think of some effective phrases to use to help get your point across. You can do this without a mirror.3. Use plenty of slides.This is sometimes offered as a ' tip ' for taking attention from yourself. Give the audience something else to look at. Another tip is to give them a hefty handout at the start so they have something to read.The problem is - YOU should be the centre of attention. People want to hear what you've got to say and the best way to communicate your message is by speaking effectively. By all means use visual aids if they will help but they should complement what you're saying, not just reproduce your own notes.Similarly with handouts, they can be very helpful but you need to know why you are using them. If they have backup information, give them out at the end. If they contain some key ideas you want to refer to as you go along, give them out at the start, but make sure they don't distract people from what you are saying.Let's be honest ? if you're that concerned about getting out of the spotlight, you shouldn't be doing this in the first place.4. Wear a cartoon tie to show you have a sense of humour.This is linked to a couple of the other ' tips ' which are meant to give you a helping hand in getting the audience on your side. Wearing a funny tie is saying " Look, I'm really a nice guy. Give me a chance. "I won't go into detail here for fear of alienating all of you who might, even now, be wearing such attire, but I have to say, that's NOT what most people think when they see someone wearing a cartoon tie.In terms of dress, wear something you feel comfortable in and which seems appropriate. That's a bit vague, but it depends on your audience. The usual approach is to dress slightly smarter than you expect the audience to dress. Too much of a difference between you and them can cause problems with credibility. Just think about the impression you want to give and, in general, avoid anything which could be a distraction.Incidentally, I really don't know what the female equivalent of the cartoon tie would be. Any suggestions?5. Start off with a joke.This is a bit like the previous ' tip '. Break the ice, show what a good sense of humour you have, get them on your side.Please don't do this. Not unless you're a good joke ? teller and this joke is absolutely guaranteed to get a laugh. And, even then, only if it's appropriate in some way. One of the best ways to kill your chances from the start is to begin with a joke which has nothing to do with your subject and watch it flop. Believe me, you'll wish you were somewhere else and your audience will too.Use humour if you can. It will help get your message across and it will get the audience on your side, but be careful with it. You can use stories, things that have happened to you or to other people which relate to your talk. Being a bit self ? deprecating can be a good way to gain an audience's trust but don't overdo it. If in doubt, leave it out.6. Tell them you're nervous to get them on your side.Like some of the others, this is a plea for support to the audience. You know most people hate the idea of speaking in public, so you appeal to their sympathy by telling them how bad you feel. Another approach is to apologise ? " I don't know why I was asked to do this. I've never done this sort of thing before. "This NEVER works.One thing you can generally be sure of is that, at the start of a talk, your audience will want you to succeed. You should remember this when you feel nervous. They will give you a chance to do well and they will mainly be prepared to listen ( and they will probably be really glad it's not them doing it ).But they are also expecting something in return for the time they are giving up. If you start suggesting that, in some way, this is going to be a lousy speech, they'll believe you. And they'll switch off. You will have lost any sympathy they had.To get over your nerves at the start, have a clear and positive opening worked out. This is one part of the speech you can memorise to get you through the first few moments. Just tell them who you are, what you are talking about and what they will gain from listening. Then get on with it.7. Stand still and don't move your hands about.A lot of people who are inexperienced at public speaking try their utmost to stop themselves moving about. They seem to have some fear that their bodies will go out of control and they'll do something totally ridiculous or embarrassing. So they try to keep absolutely still, often by holding onto a lectern like the survivor of a shipwreck clinging to a piece of driftwood on the ocean.The best way to make contact with an audience and to keep their attention is to behave as if you are speaking to them in a normal conversation. So you move about, you use gestures, you look at them. When speakers try to stop themselves doing these things, they become unnatural, distant from the audience.So don't get too hung up about any mannerisms you think you may have. It's usually better to look natural than to try to deliver a talk as though from a straightjacket. Just avoid some obvious distractions, like playing with something in your hands, pushing your hands in your pockets and juggling your change( a male thing ), shifting back and forth on one leg. But, if what you are saying is interesting, people will listen.8. Stare over the heads of the audience.This is a way of pretending to establish eye contact without really doing so, because some people feel awkward about it. They don't really want to look at the audience. The idea is that, if you look out over their heads, they will think you are looking at them.Actually, they won't. They'll think " Why is this person looking over my head? ".To my mind, the key factor in gaining an audience's attention and keeping it ( apart from the fascinating content of your talk ) is eye contact. If you were talking to someone who never looked at you, what would you think?Chances are you'd think " This person isn't interested in me. He's not listening. " Or, if the person was speaking but not looking at you, you may think they were a bit shifty, perhaps dishonest. In any event, you wouldn't find it a pleasant experience.The same goes for speaking in public. If I am in an audience and the speaker doesn't look at me, I can't feel that person is interested in me or whether I am listening. So I stop listening. On the other hand, if the speaker makes a point of keeping eye contact with me, it gives me the feeling that he cares about making some connection with me and I'll feel less inclined to switch off.So look at them while you speak, keep your eyes moving around the room so you engage everyone there. If it's a very big audience, you can look at a section at a time but, with a small audience, you will need to look at individuals. Not for too long, but glance at everyone as you speak so no ? one feels left out.9. Imagine the audience naked.This is supposed to be another way to deal with nerves. I have actually seen it in guides to presentations.The best answer to this is one I found in the book " Successful Presentations for Dummies " by Malcolm Kushner: IDG Books. He says there is probably half the audience who you wouldn't mind seeing naked. The other half you certainly would never want to see naked. Either way, it's not a calming thought.Another ' tip ' I have come across is to pretend the audience isn't there. This probably works in a way because I can guarantee, if you pretend the audience isn't there, pretty soon it won't be.I mentioned eye contact above. You can't just ignore the people out there and expect your talk to have any impact. There are lots of ways to tackle nerves but they come under 3 categories:preparation, think through what could go wrong and prepare for it, know your subject and be clear about why you are giving the talk, also keep things in perspective ? what's the worst than can happen? You're not performing brain surgery.relaxation or deep breathing exercises.positive self ? talk, visualise the talk going really well, tell yourself it will be a success, know that you have prepared and that you can do this and stop yourself when you start to think it will all be a disaster.Above all, remember that everyone gets nervous when they have to speak in public. If you don't feel nervous, you should ask someone to check your pulse. The nerves themselves are not the problem. You can carry on and give a great talk even though you feel nervous at the start.10. Have a drink beforehand to calm your nerves.No, no, no. Alcohol and nerves are a lethal combination. Have you ever sat through a Best Man's speech at a wedding? Then you'll know what I mean. Don't do it.Incidentally, if you want to have a glass of water at hand in case your mouth gets dry ? use still not sparkling. Belching into a microphone is not to be recommended.There you are ? the top 10 things to avoid when speaking in public. Keep away from these, follow my simple rules, and you won't go far wrong.Good luck.About The AuthorAlan Matthews is an experienced trainer, coach and speaker and author of " Do You Come Here Often? How To Get More Clients By Successful Networking " and " Secrets Of A Professional Speaker " as well as numerous articles and reports, available from http://www.trainofthought.org.uk.alan@trainofthought.org.uk
You Too Can Be A Public Speaker – Public-Speaking
You Too Can Be A Public Speaker
Have you ever watched a speaker and said, "Wow, I wish I could speak like that"? or "That person was just so wonderful. I could never do that." Well, I've got some good news for you. You too can be a public speaker. Public speaking is a learned skill, so anyone can do it. You just need to follow some simple steps and practice, practice, practice. If you know how to talk, you can become a public speaker.Becoming really good at public speaking requires some risk, but you have been taking risks all your life. When you were a toddler, you risked falling down when you took your first steps. You risk scraping your knees or falling when you start roller blading. You risk falling off when you start bike riding. You risk being rejected when you ask someone out on a date, and you risk getting into an accident every time you drive your car.If you gave up after your first fall, you'd still be crawling. If you were afraid to fall off your bike, you'd still be riding with training wheels. If you were afraid of getting into an accident, you'd never get behind the wheel of a car. And guess what, you're still here - you've survived all of that. You're risk takers!! You've proved that by coming to Toastmasters. The greatest fear is that of public speaking and here you are - wanting to learn how to do it.How many of you enjoy watching figure skating? Now, you wouldn't expect to be a world class figure skater the minute you put on a pair of skates, would you? No, you'd expect to have to practice for years before becoming that good. Nor would you expect to make the NHL without years and years of winter and summer hockey.How many of you enjoy watching racing? Would you expect to be another Mario Andretti the minute you get behind the wheel? Now, I will admit that there seem to be a few drivers out there who think they are Mario, but most people would expect to have to practice for years before reaching his status.Now, I think everyone here knows how to walk. When you think of walking 25 miles, it seems like a long distance, but it is actually only putting one foot in front of the other a number of times and you know how to do that. It just takes practice to go the distance. It's the same thing with public speaking. It just takes putting one word after another.The key to getting up in front of an audience is believing that you have something to share with them that may make a difference in their lives - by entertaining them, warning them, encouraging them, or giving them direction or information.The great thing is - you all do have something to say that people would be interested in hearing. Each of you has come through life in a different way. You may have encountered difficult circumstances and survived. Your experience could help someone else in the same situation.If you remember jokes or enjoy telling stories to your friends, practice a little more and soon you can be telling your jokes and stories to large audiences. If you are really good at something, consider sharing the steps of how you got there.By following the steps outlined in the Toastmasters' manuals, and with the encouragement of fellow Toastmasters, you can learn how to craft a speech and how to deliver it. You can learn how to use props, how to modulate your voice, and how to use words that your audience will understand.You will often hear the words "stage time" used by Toastmasters. That is the only way to get better. In order to be good at anything, you have to practice. Winston Churchill overcame a speech impediment to become a master orator. He had to practice for hours to deliver a speech.You can get very discouraged if you expect to be as good as Zig Ziglar right away. But if you listen to his story, you will find that it took a very long time before he was able to do what he does so well.The thing to remember is that the only person you need to compare yourself to is you. You are working for your personal best, so when you are preparing your speech and practicing, all you need to ask yourself is - is your second speech better in some way than your first? Did you learn something new as you prepared for your speech? Did you learn something from the evaluative comments of others after you gave your speech? Then, that's all you need to do. You can use what you've learned to make the next speech your best to date and then use the same process for each speech you give. Just take one step at a time.Remember, public speaking is a skill, so anyone can learn to do it. You just need to be taught how and then practice, practice, practice. Then one day someone may watch you and say, "Wow, I wish I could speak like that."Fran Watson is a Career Counsellor and a Toastmaster (ATM-B). For more information on Toastmasters you can go to her webpage http://www.franwatson.ca