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1Jun/100

Learn to Talk on Paper: The Art of Effective Business Writing

Learn to Talk on Paper: The Art of Effective Business Writing

Rudolf Flesch, a specialist in writing skills,
ran classes for over thirty years for civil
servants, lawyers, bankers and the like, on writing
business correspondence.

Two tips he stressed over and over again in his classes.

The first: move heaven and earth to wean yourself from
the inhibitions and nervous habits that your
schoolteachers, bless 'em, have bequeathed to you.
Leave no stone unturned to rid yourself of the awkward,
stilted and artificial writing styles that have been
reinforced daily since your early childhood.

The second: when you write a letter or the like - even if
it's a business letter you'd normally place in the "highly
formal" category - imagine that the addressee were
sitting right there, on the other side of your desk.

Relax. If you really believed the recipient was with you in the
room, you would never have the effrontery to begin with
"please be advised" or "we wish to inform you".

Incidentally, I've a confession to make. I'm a fairly experienced
writer, but time and time again, I find myself committing
the very offences that would make Rudolf Flesch cringe.
I'm a sinner! But then - I am aware of it. I try to catch myself in the act.
And when I succeed, I'm pretty ruthless with myself.

When Flesch says you should imagine the person you're writing to you is
right there with you in the room, it doesn't mean that informality is
appropriate for all categories of written documents. But more often than not,
it's regarded today as a sign of professionalism, rather than the
reverse.

More importantly, it's far more effective, as we'll see.
And whichever way you look at it, effective communication is the name of the game!

Incidentally, you'll notice that I said we spoke about...
rather than we wrote about.I can't see you as I write. All I can
see is my monitor and it's not much of a conversationalist. All the same,
I'm using talking words all the time.

I recall my school days in South Africa, round about half a
century ago. At the end of every term, we wrote exams, and one
paper was always called "English Composition."

From the lowest grade to the highest, the format was about the
same. There were generally two questions: The first would begin:
"Write an essay of about 500 words on one of the following
topics..." The second would be the same, with "letter"
substituted for "essay".

Between examinations, the teachers would drum a multitude of
rules into our impressionable heads, always accompanied by grim
warnings about the terrible consequences of non-compliance! Many
of these rules directly contradict what I'm telling you to do
now.

Have you ever taken a course in public speaking?

When you do a public speaking course, you don't hear much
about grammar and vocabulary. Instead you learn not to be embarrassed,
to overcome your inhibitions, to speak without a prepared script
and to reach out to the audience in front of you.

We're not saying that good grammar and such things aren't
important in writing. They're very important.

But they're not the
essence. In some ways, writing is so much harder than public
speaking, because your audience isn't right there in front of
you. But the object of the whole exercise is to break through the
invisible barrier that separates writer and reader.

Notice that question I asked three paragraphs ago? Of course,
this is one of the tricks we use to tear down that very barrier.

I could have saved a lot of words by leading right in with:
"Those who have taken public speaking course know that..."
But a question has a more intimate, personal ring. With a bit of luck,
I'll even make you feel I'm talking directly to YOU. Why? Because
a person normally peppers his everyday conversation with millions
of questions!

For precisely the same reason, this article, is full of word contractions. That is to say: I
write "they're" rather than "they are";
"I'll" and not "I will."
Certainly sounds more cozy, you will -oops, you'll admit.

"Yes," you may well protest, "let's assume I'm
a bank manager or
the like? Can I really use that style in writing to my clients?
And oh my gosh - what if I'm some kind of government official?"
(We won't talk of lawyers for the moment - they're a special
class of headache, which we'll have to deal with separately.)

The rejoinder is: "Sure, you can." When you write a
business
letter, you want to make your point quickly and effectively.
Further, you're looking for a response: you want action. An
informal style, rather than one of prim and proper
conventionality, is more likely to do the trick.

For all that, you could ask me a very strong question:

"This makes sense when you want to be friendly: when you're
looking to get the business of a potential customer, or to
retain that of an existing one.But what if I deliberately need a
stiff and formal tone, as when I'm writing a letter of demand to
a debtor?"

We can do no better than to quote an example direct from
Rudolf
Flesch. Compare these two extracts:

"It is imperative that you submit the above amount within
five
days. Failure on your part to comply may result in legal action
at your expense."

"If you don't pay this amount within five days, we'll
start legal
action at your expense."

Which of these two versions is more likely to startle the
hapless recipient out of his wits?

You be the judge!
Azriel Winnett is creator of Hodu.com - Your Communication Skills Portal. This popular website helps you improve your communication and relationship skills in your business or professional life, in the family unit and on the social scene. New articles added almost daily.

25May/100

How To Talk To Your Baby ? And Understand What She?s Saying Back-Toddler

How To Talk To Your Baby ? And Understand What She?s Saying Back

It is incredible, but within a years time your baby will progress from random crying to talking. This is quite an achievement for your baby and in a very short period of time. In this chapter we will look at your baby's development when it comes to language. You'll also discover what you can expect to see every month but it's important to remember that these stages of your baby's development are broad and because every baby is different these are not meant as exact milestones.One month. Your baby will be able to understand speech long before actually talking. From birth he will look at your face and listen to your voice. He may make a small range of noises that will start to mean something to you - these may be made when he experiences feelings of hunger or pain (such as crying and certain sounds while he is breathing). When your baby is eating, you may notice him making sucking type noises and sounds of contentment. The way that your baby cries is an important communication method while he is actually unable to talk. Crying lays the foundation for speech as your baby learns to control his vocal cords. Crying is also a baby's way of indicating hunger, discontentment, or general discomfort. Through responding to this crying you let your baby know that she is important to you ? and this can really be reassuring for a young infant.Two months. As a child enters his second month he is far more aware of the world ? things such as sounds, even that of your voice, will amuse and fascinate your child. Change the tone of your voice and this will keep him amused. Your baby will respond with a variety of cooing sounds, vowel-like sounds, and sometimes some consonant sounds such as a "k". You will find that your baby has quite a collection of cooing sounds that she uses to communicate with you as well as discover how to use the sound of her own voice. During this time, try and talk with your baby ? this will encourage her response and help in the development process. By looking into your baby's eyes you are communicating an important thing to her ? that you are listening.Three months. By now you will find that your baby is able to recognize your voice and may come to you or face you when your voice is heard. You may notice him laugh out aloud and may even scare himself by doing this (as he does not initially know that he is the one making the sounds). Your baby will be making sounds such as "ahhhh gooo". He will squeal when he is happy and content, again often startling himself as he learns his own abilities.At this stage you should not only talk to your baby but also introduce other communication forms such as singing and story telling. The greater your effort in trying to talk with him, the better his response is likely to be.Four months. By now more and more communication should be taking place with your baby. You may notice a greater amount of smiling ? while his babbling may have a noticeably singsong quality to it, often ranging into a high pitch that delights him as he learns to like the sound of his own voice. There will be lots of repetition to the sounds that your baby makes.It is important that you always respond to your baby's "oohs" and "ahhs" and whatever other communication methods she is using - respond with your own voice tones. This is your chance to have a "chat time" with your baby and you should take advantage of these times ? you are helping him to discover the art of conversation. There will also be certain times when your baby may also not be in the mood for talking. He will turn his head in the other direction and may put his arm over his face. He may be showing signs of anger or frustration by crying out, especially if something is taken away from him.Five months. As each month progresses you will find that your baby is becoming better at communicating. It's possible that you will notice him imitate some sounds and gestures. By now he'll most likely be able to let you know if he's happy or sad. When attention is wanted your baby will babble until he is given the attention he feels he deserves. Interestingly, if you always respond to his communication efforts (whatever these may be) he'll repeat them whenever he wants your attention this way.During this month it's likely that your baby will be looking at your mouth moving while you talk. Talk to him from across the room and he'll be able to find you with ease. He is learning to control his vocal sounds as he watches your response to his sounds.Six months. Your baby may now be using consonant-vowel combinations. It's quite possible that he has discovered his mirror reflection and is probably having conversations with himself. Your baby's language is becoming much more precise.Here are some ways that you can help your baby develop her language skills:

8May/100

Lets NOT Talk Turkey

Lets NOT Talk Turkey

The carving. The leftovers. The endless stuffing. Actually, you love the stuffing, cranberries and turkey trimmings. However, it's been seven years and you know your family will throw the turkey out the window if they have to eat the bird one more Christmas (and never mind the lectures about starving children in Ethiopia---or better yet, send them the turkey if you can get it through security.)The Pilgrims and your third-grade teacher started something by preaching the turkey gospel. But if you didn't have turkey---as your vegetarian friends remind you, it's so much better than Big Macs--- what would you serve?Some ideas:Lasagna---it's always a crowd-pleaser.Slice avocadoes and combine with sliced cucumbers, chopped green olives, diced tomatoes, and sliced onions for a winter red/green salad.Serve Mexican and have a "Feliz Navidad" party.Serve Holiday Noodles---Thai, lo mein, crispy, or egg noodles tossed with scallions and covered with red curry powder or red pepper.Get your Omega-3 boost from salmon, made festive with salsa and guacamole toppings.Make a "Christmas pizza": green peppers, tomatoes, goat cheese, green olives...let your imagination run wild!Of course, don't forget the Christmas cookies!Enjoy the turkey-free healthy and tasty holiday traditions you've created.About The AuthorCopyright Kristin Johnson.Kristin Johnson is co-author of the "highly recommended" Midwest Book Review pick, Christmas Cookies Are For Giving: Stories, Recipes and Tips for Making Heartwarming Gifts (ISBN: 0-9723473-9-9). A downloadablemedia kit is available at our Web site, www.christmascookiesareforgiving.com, or e-mail the publisher (info@tyrpublishing.com) to receive a printed media kit and sample copy of the book. More articles available at http://www.bakingchristmascookies.com.kristin@poemsforyou.com

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