Why Do Some Affirmations *Work* – and Others Dont? – Positive-Attitude
Why Do Some Affirmations *Work* - and Others Dont?
By definition,an affirmation is a statement repeated time and
again either verbally or mentally-or written down. The words
of the affirmation statement - in themselves -when spoken,
thought of, or written *without* a pictorial (visualized) or
emotional connection- make a very weak affirmation.Affirmations, when worded correctly -- and when emotionally
charged - are able to tap into the unlimited creative power of
your subconscious mind, and manifest your desires.Affirmations are not all created equal. Some are, of course,
better than others.
When you examine the structure of these power affirmations, you,
too, can learn how to create your own powerful affirmations for
your specific purposes.Consider these:
"I am what I choose to be."
"All my needs are met instantaneously."
"I love and accept myself exactly as I am."
"_____________ comes to me easily and effortlessly."
(Fill in the blank with what you desire.)
"I am now perfectly healthy in body, mind and spirit."
"I now create my wonderful, ideal life."
What do the above power affirmations have in common?1) They're stated in the present tense.An affirmation is more effective when stated in the present
tense. For example;"I now have a wonderful job." Avoid affirming
something in the future tense, e.g."I am going to have a
wonderful job" or the results will always be waiting to happen.2) They express a positive statement.Affirmations need to be stated in the most positive terms
possible. Avoid negative statements. Affirm what you do want,
rather than what you don't want. For example:"I am no longer
sick." This is a negative statement. Instead, affirm: :"I am now
perfectly healthy in body, mind and spirit." This statement is
much more powerful as it is positive and reinforces your desired
goal and doesn't confuse your subconscious mind with the mention
of the undesirable condition.3) They're short and specific.
Short affirmations have a far greater impact
at the subconscious level than those which are long and wordy.
Keeping them specific and to the point adds power as the idea is
uncluttered by extraneous elements.The mechanics that make affirmations powerful are:* Repetition
The importance of repetition cannot be overemphasized. It
imprints the affirmation into your subconscious mind.*Emotions
Get involved, be passionate, and use your emotions. Think
carefully about the meaning of the words as you repeat them
rather than just writing, typing or saying them.*Persistence
Practicing affirmations with persistence achieves results much
sooner than practicing them periodically.Successive sessions
will have a compounding effect.*Belief
You don't necessarily have to believe your affirmation initially,
in order for it to work. Belief will grow with your forthcoming
successes. What you do need is the ability to *feel* what it
would be like when the desire you're affirming is fulfilled, or
your need met. Every time that you have a need -and that need
is met -a certain "feeling" is produced in you.
Simply evoke that same feeling when you state your affirmation.
That is, you need to feel with every fiber of your being that what you desire has already happened. Without this feeling, your
affirmation is powerless.*Impress Yourself
Personalize your affirmations. They must *resonate* with you feel right for you. The stronger your connection with the
affirmation, the deeper the impression it makes on your mind and
the sooner you will experience positive results.So there you have it - the simple formula for creating
affirmations that work. Based on the above, you can easily
create your own affirmations to manifest any desire or need you
have in life.TIP: Although the practice of affirmations is easy, some people
find it challenging to repeat the affirmations continuously while
maintaining the highly charged emotional state necessary in
making affirmations work. GOOD NEWS!You can now use your
computer to make the affirmation process effortless-and
you can automate those challenging aspects (such as maintaining
highly charged emotions),thereby manifesting your desires more
quickly!Go to http://datingadvisor.psend.com/affirmations.html
to find out how. c) Jeff Staniforth - All Rights reserved.Jeff Staniforth is the owner and editor of affirmations for the mind newsletter.
New Poetic Work By Ethiopian Immigrant Promotes Respect, Courage And Cultural Sensitivity
New Poetic Work By Ethiopian Immigrant Promotes Respect, Courage And Cultural Sensitivity
McLean, VA - "The Healing Conscious" tells the story of an Ethiopian immigrant boy on his fascinating journey to America and adulthood. Author Kifle Bantayehu, a 23 year-old second-generation Ethiopian immigrant, recounts this poignant tale in poetic format. His inspirational collection of poems reflects the final words and thoughts of a dying man who traveled across the world, raised a family and became successful-finally fulfilling the American dream.These poems, written in a uniquely modern style, reflect a journey of sacrifice, courage and strength. "The ideals of cultural preservation, respect and love intertwine with each person encountered along the narrator's journey and serve as inspiration to all people, regardless of race religion or sex," states the introduction of the book.Bantayehu says there have been very few work works of poetry written and published by Ethiopian authors. And he feels as though he's breaking new ground for this genre of literature by combining the English language with Ethiopian culture."The Healing Conscious" is available for pre-order at Borders and Barnes & Noble. It's also available online at Amazon.com and books.lulu.com at discounted pricing.Part of the proceeds from book sales will be donated to Ethiopian Children's and Orphans' Association, Inc. (ECOA), 46664, Africare, the African AIDS Initiative and other organizations working to promote HIV awareness and helping those affected in Sub-Saharan and East Africa.Bantayehu says he wrote the book-which is based on the lives of his parents- to tell the compelling story of an immigrant, who through much pain and sacrifice, was able to leave his homeland of Ethiopia with an equally-strong and motivated woman, and raise four children in the best possible environment for education, opportunity and happiness."Although, there are many wonderfully unique stories and novels depicting the lives of immigrants in America of backgrounds ranging from Italian, Irish, Chinese, and English, there has been little said of the sacrifices and contributions of the Ethiopian immigrant community residing in the United States," Bantayehu said, explaining his motivation. "Not only do we, as Ethiopians, possess over 2,000 years of a rich, cultural heritage, but we are a loving, caring and hard working people from whom the values of family, sacrifice, respect and camaraderie can be learned.""The Healing Conscious" is meant to inspire immigrants and others to have faith in their dreams because anything is possible. It also seeks to stir cultural consciousness and sensitivity. Many people and the world community at large, don't take the time to understand a culture or society other than their own, Bantayheu says. And stereotypes, misconceptions, and hatred arise from our lack of knowledge."Whether Christian, Hindu, Buddhist, Muslim or any other ethnic or religious background, we all breathe the same air, feel fear, feel joy, shed tears, laugh, and love," he says. "Those innate qualities make us human."Given the fears and prejudices that have arisen from the September 11 tragedy, "The Healing Conscious" promotes important principles for the entire global community to embrace and practice.For more information about the book, please contact Kifle Bantayehu via phone / fax at (703) 628-3229 / (703) 448-0515 or email at kifle@globalcbp.com Additional information may be located at the following website: www.thehealingconscious.com.About The AuthorKifle Bantayehu is a second-generation Ethiopian born in the United States in 1980. He grew up in Mexico, Kenya, Zimbabwe, Ethiopia, and the United States. In 2002, he received his B.A. Degree from the University of Virginia and currently resides in Virginia, USA. He is a Distinguished Member of the International Society of Poets.kifle@globalcbp.com
Hypnotherapy ? Does It Really Work?
Hypnotherapy ? Does It Really Work?
Okay, so some of you are familiar with hypnotherapy. You've heard it can be used for curing a number of ailments including stress, alcoholism and the like. But, if I were to ask, how many people do you know who've been treated by a hypnotherapist, it's possible you may not recall any! Of course, you'd know those, who regularly visit a shrink or associations like the Alcoholics Anonymous. So, why don't people make a beeline for hypnotherapy? To find out the answer to this question, and also about what hypnotherapy has to offer, just read on.Hypnotism definedMention hypnotism and you'll straightaway relate it to occult or magic, probably influenced by the famous magicians who manage to make whole buildings disappear right in front of your eyes! Despite these fantastic feats, hypnotism remains simply a method of bringing on an artificial state of sleep in the subject by the power of suggestion. That's why the word hypnosis, derived from the Greek word hypnos, means sleep. It induces a state of reduced consciousness, where the subject remains awake, can talk and move, but becomes highly susceptible to suggestions.The origin of hypnotismHypnotism is nothing new. It has always been a powerful tool of the occult. Witchdoctors and shamans have used it for thousands of years. However, the first use of hypnosis was in the seventeenth century and that too on animals. It was successfully used to calm chickens by balancing wood shavings on their beaks or tying their heads to the ground and drawing a line with chalk in front of their beaks. The French farmers even used it on hens to sit on eggs not their own!The modern history of hypnotism is nothing but a seesaw battle between the believers and the skeptics. Dr. Franz Anton Mesmer applied this science to humans, though he termed it as magnetism. James Braid, a Scottish surgeon, introduced hypnotism as a modern day concept in 1843. Prior to Freud, this was the only known method of psychotherapy and was even used for performing major surgical operations, including amputations!The power of hypnotherapyWhy hypnotherapy is preferred to other forms of healing is because it usually speeds up the therapeutic process. What might take months or years of regular psychotherapy can usually be accomplished within weeks with this therapy.Hypnotherapy is effective in curing addictions, phobias, stress, anxiety and insomnia. It has been used for providing motivation, and building self-confidence and self-esteem. It has even come to the aid of those wanting to lose weight, stop smoking, become a better public speaker and overcome fear of heights.However, hypnotherapy is no magic. And it certainly can't make you a superhero! For example, it can't make you run a cross-country out of the blue, unless you are already a runner. But to a cross-country runner it can give a psychological edge that may make a difference between a gold and a bronze medal. Hypnosis can be likened to a tool, like a knife. You don't expect a knife to cut vegetables for you. But its availability makes it a whole lot easier to cut them the way you desire, rather than using your own hands! So, in other words, hypnosis is the tool that a hypnotherapist wields in curing your ailments.This brings us to the important issue of selecting the right hypnotherapist.Selecting a hypnotherapistA hypnotherapist is a person who induces hypnotic state in you. Now, this sounds dicey, because, once hypnotized, you may come under his will and bidding. It's this feeling of vulnerability, which discourages most from preferring this kind of therapy. And that's probably why people don't usually make a beeline for a hypnotherapist! However, the answer to the question, "Can I be made to do things against my will?" will come a little later in this article.So, what's the method of selection? Well, there's no foolproof method of selecting the right hypnotherapist any more than there is a guaranteed way to select the right physician, lawyer, accountant or a mechanic! However, reputation counts and you may get to know of good hypnotherapists from your personal physician, family or friends, workplace or the Yellow Pages. You can also get hold of a list of professional associations or go through the International Registry of Professional Hypnotherapists.However, whether the recommended hypnotherapists measure up to your requirement will depend entirely upon you. Their suitability depends upon various factors like personality, ideology (that may affect a good rapport), and also the nature of your problem. Although the best indication of a good professional is his satisfied clients, in this case, this isn't so, because of the highly personalized nature of this therapy. That's why someone's recommended hypnotherapist may not, at times, turn out to be good enough for you.So, what're you to do? There're a number ways in which you can choose a good hypnotherapist. In your first meeting have a long chat to find out your comfort level with him. Answer questions like: Do I feel welcome and accepted? Does their nearness give me pleasant vibes? Does their office feel like a haven? Do they seem knowledgeable enough? Are they genuinely interested in my problems and me? Do they ask a lot about me and really listen? Do they appear hopeful? You may also need to find out about his background, professional qualifications, years in practice and experience with your kind of problem. In addition:-Find out if your problem can be treated without hypnosis.-Be clear about the hypnotherapy procedure. Will hypnosis be physically induced or help of audiotapes be taken.-Know if personalized service, tailored to your needs, will be provided. Settle for nothing less.-Ask if someone can accompany you for the session. Genuine hypnotherapists would be delighted to find a friend or relative with you.-Find out if the session can be tape-recorded. Well-meaning hypnotherapists would let you do it for later use at home, as reinforcement.-Ask for references and memberships in hypnotherapy associations.-Know whether self-hypnosis will be taught. Hypnotherapists with your interests at heart will automatically do so to help you become self-reliant.-Find out about the fee structure, but don't be overly concerned with the per session fee. If you're able get cured in the appropriate number of sessions, a high fee would seem like a bargain!However, don't be overly concerned about the time or the number of sessions your problem may take, as there are far too many variables. Also, don't ask about the success rate, as this is no indication for your chances of success.The methods employed by hypnotherapistsA hypnotherapist has a choice of a number of techniques for hypnotic induction. The six main induction categories are:a. Eye fixation or fixed gaze method: As the name implies, in this method the subject is required to gaze at a spinning disc, or some such thing, to get into a trance. However, it's not a very successful method as most subjects fail to respond to it.b. Progressive relaxation and imagery method: This involves having the subject imagine being in a safe or peaceful place, and then awakening him or her to full consciousness.c. Mental confusion method: This is designed to confuse the conscious mind, so that it simply becomes easier to just relax the mind and make it 'let go' into hypnosis.d. Mental misdirection method: This employs active use of the imagination, coupled with response, to hypnotize through responding to suggestions.e. Loss of equilibrium method: This makes use of gentle rocking to get the subject into a trance.f. Shock to nervous system method: This employs a sudden emphatic command given in a surprising manner. The subject experiences a moment of passivity during which he'll either resist the trance, or let go and drop quickly into hypnosis.Hypnotherapists may combine two or more methods to achieve the desired results. The combinations of methods may be as limitless as the imagination of those employing them!What to expect in hypnotherapyTo find out how it feels to be under the sway of a hypnotherapist, let's see how a hypnotherapy session is conducted:-First, the hypnotherapist will discuss in detail the problems afflicting you to determine the nature of your problem.-Next, he will explain the process to ease your anxiety and prepare you for hypnosis.-This done, he will guide you through some exercises to determine the degree of physical and emotional suggestibility to gauge your threshold to suggestions.-After this, he will put you into a hypnotic state by using individualized methods and techniques.-As you begin to slip into the hypnotic trance, your body will relax and your mind will detach from everyday concerns and responsibilities. This'll be accompanied by increased muscle relaxation, a feeling of well being, increased threshold to pain and diminished ability to vocalize.-Now, the hypnotherapist will apply his power of suggestion, telling you to focus on things you'd like to change. He'll then proceed to show you the way to achieve those changes. You may have flashbacks of stressful memories and you may become almost childlike in accepting ideas or suggestions about yourself.So, when'll you start noticing the changes? It depends upon the intensity of your session or the number of times you're made to listen to your audiotape, which can be for up to a month. You'll begin noticing behavioral changes spontaneously popping into your conscious mind almost immediately. Your subconscious mind will help you out of your old patterns with these cues.The risks of hypnotherapyHypnotherapy is not dangerous and, till date, no one has been seriously hurt (except some in the region of the pocket because of unscrupulous hypnotherapists!). Even the Council of Mental Health of the American Medical Association has approved hypnosis as a safe practice with no harmful side effects. The reason is the great resilience of our subconscious that always has our best interest as its main concern. The only danger is from ignorance and misconceptions about this procedure.Coming to the most dreaded question, "Can I be made to do things against my will?" The answer is a resounding no! Most people develop these false beliefs by witnessing stage hypnosis performed by magicians, which is pure fun and entertainment. Under hypnosis, no one can make you do anything against your will or contrary to your value system. No one can make you unknowingly reveal your deepest secrets either. People are also known to tell lies under hypnosis, and that's why, the court of law doesn't admit testimony under hypnosis!Some people fear that hypnosis may weaken their will and make them dependent on the hypnotherapist. Nothing can be further from the truth. Hypnosis is, in fact, a tool to gain more self-control, and can actually help improve one's focus in life!What if you don't wake up? There isn't a single case where someone has refused to rise and shine after the session. Hypnosis, as explained earlier, is akin to falling asleep and you get up, as if you've awakened after a nice long nap.So, for those in dire need of help and wanting to try out something different, hypnotherapy may come as a shot in the arm. It's quick, it's safe and it's effective.